I have come to realize the tendency we all have to see one side (which usually happens to be our side) of a situation/thought/behavior/etc. I work too much. I don’t go to the gym enough. I drink too much. I don’t spend enough time with my family. Have I hit something you can relate to yet?
I was at lunch with my incredibly motivating friend J a few weeks back and he was telling me how he wanted to be more independent when it came to going and doing what he wanted to do. Going on a hike, to a concert, or trying a new restaurant… he was sick of waiting around for a buddy to join in, and decided that he wasn’t going to let anyone stop him from crossing items off his to do list. Very commendable to say the least. I however, have found myself of the compleeeete opposite side of the spectrum, being TOO independent in my hobbies and interest. I am at a place that I need to be spending more time with friends, work on being more social. Point being… no one is right or wrong in this situation. But when you have gone to one extreme it’s hard to remember that too much of the other side exists.
Next time you start getting down on yourself for too much/little of whatever it is, remember to look at the flip side of the situation. You will never reach “perfect”. It’s not a destination. The struggle to find balance, in every area of your life, will always be there. The sooner you start to accept this the sooner you will find peace in the good, the bad, and everything in between.